it takes a village to go to law school

in a seemingly risky departure from american cultural norms/values, i would like to recommend living with your parents as a thirty-something — with the following caveats:

  1. this living situation is ideal after having lived apart from your parents.
  2. this living situation is ideal for minimizing expenses associated with earning a professional/graduate degree.
  3. this living situation is ideal if duration is fixed.

by “all,” i mean, “my bathroom, and maybe my bedroom eventually.”

i’d been away from home for almost twelve years, with almost eight of them after undergrad. i’ve traipsed along the spectrum of self-sufficiency during that time, and even as i enter my second year under my parents’ roof, i exercise fair amounts of freedom and autonomy.

my friend gavin, who could possibly be my fraternal twin brother in a parallel universe somewhere, told me a few years ago that God would shed light on the meaning of “family” for me. i’m convinced that those dozen years i spent outside of my hometown was a season of revelation of what it looks like to be in God’s family; my spiritual family grew exponentially. now i believe that the past year and the next three years (at least) will be a season of recovery: both of vision for my biological family, and taste for the kingdom of God here in new york city.

living with mom and dad as a “grown” woman has been, in a word, enlightening. parental instinct is like the shelf-life of fruitcake: indefinite. the instances my parents have handed me cash — gas money, or just because — outnumber the times i’ve asked them for financial help.

i could, and hopefully will, in the near future, dedicate a post entirely to the fruit and fallout of being told, “you’re just like your father.” suffice it to say in this post that living as an adult with your parents proves that “the fruit doesn’t fall far from the tree.” i learned whence my massive sweet tooth cometh when i watched daddy-o help himself to some nutella, of which i thought i was the sole consumer. but also, why i enjoy watching jeopardy! as much as i do? #mymothermyself [gathering proverbial worms back into equally figurative can]

information about summer law institute (SLI) and pre-law orientation finally hit my inbox a week or so ago. i learned which classes i’m taking, and who’ll be teaching them (except for legal research). today, i begin my second day of SLI, aka bridge over nine-year gap from academia.

law school so far reminds me more of high school than university in that my law school is public, and that i commute via public transportation. thankfully, and more importantly, i enjoyed high school quite a bit. true to my contrarian/optimist tendencies, i believe that i will enjoy law school, too — thanks muchly to the motley crew that is our 1L class, i’m sure.

in addition to illuminating my roots, living with my parents offers the support i need for the next few years as a commuter law student. at a practical level, not paying rent, not worrying about grocery shopping, and not having to fish for quarters to wash my clothes will free me to grapple with contracts and learn three-word latin phrases and legal terms.

my spiritual family prayed me into law school, and i’m so grateful that the encouragement of said people will keep acting as grease to keep me going as i kick into high gear. but now, my natural family will play a key role in getting me through law school.

it’s a divine, counterintuitive exchange: by surrendering or postponing my declaration of independence, i get to trace my origins and said examination of my roots will help me better understand my identity. this in turn refines my sense of individuality in a way that i wouldn’t be possibly by myself.

in that light, sleeping in a twin bed and decorating my imaginary apartment only on pinterest and in my dreams for the next three years ain’t no thang.

excelsior (or, the world race: nbd)

i left in october (technically, end of september) 2008 for the world race, an 11-month missions trip to 11-countries. it’s been five years, eight months, and 28 days since then, and i still

  • refer to my up-close-and-personal encounters with God from that season;
  • am reminded of the hard lessons learned;
  • feel the remnants of the crucible’s fire (mmmm, feedback);
  • remember prophetic words spoken through and over me;
  • recall the friendships formed and the amazing hospitality showered upon us all over the world (this is one of the biggest redeeming qualities of social media, otherwise a major time suck);
  • am amazed that once upon a time, i didn’t know the 50ish fellow men and women with whom i sojourned for 11 months;
  • ache, albeit not as acutely, from brokenness i witnessed
  • rejoice in the gentle miracles and mighty movements i glimpsed
  • marvel at how my worlds keep expanding, shrinking, and colliding simultaneously

yes, it was a most epic season of life. but it will not–cannot–be the pinnacle of my life.

my prayer has been that the world race would not be the highest mountain i would summit. when i die, i don’t want to look back at my life and think that my life’s most exciting adventure happened when i was 25, that the world race was the best time of my life.

i rebuke that so hard. instead, i see those 11+ months (pre- and post-race) as the finishing touch of a foundation — the ceiling of the basement of a mansion. while it’s appropriate to go to the basement time to time to grab something you need — those steaks from the freezer, or that vintage from the cellar — it’s not where i’m supposed to settle.

admittedly, it has been more challenging to recognize that the years since my world race have been adventurous and momentous in their own right, particularly since my nomadic tendencies have tapered off quite a bit in the past couple years. and while the lsat and the law school application process had their adrenaline-inducing moments, it was more stressful than it was thrilling. and from the accounts of the attorneys that have gone before me, it might be apropos to liken the next three years to the journey to mordor à la the lord of the rings: the two towers (is that allowed if actually haven’t read the trilogy?), making that epic global missionary trek into a cakewalk in comparison.

as i reworked my personal statement to ten law schools, it was clear that the world race was, without a doubt, pivotal. and the effects of that year keep reverberating throughout the facets of my life — my worldview, my approach to work, my interactions with people, my relationship with God — and i’ve no doubt that my study and practice of law (and [please, God] marriage and parenthood) will be influenced, too.

and that was the point of the world race — to me, anyway.

the world race isn’t something i finished — it was a start to something more, to something greater.

before the world race, God had been stirring in me. the world race set me in motion, and i haven’t stopped moving ever since. i’m more and more convinced it’s not the experience itself that keeps generating momentum; rather, my continual, progressively intimate encounters with God propel me forward. it can’t be coincidence that God brought me back to new york and the state motto is “excelsior,” which liberally translates to, “ever higher,” right?

suddenly i feel inspired to look into the prophetic meanings of the state flags, mottos, nicknames, for which i blame/credit the world race… anyway.

the world race has changed a lot since i went on it and even since i was on staff at adventures in missions. there are, like, eleventy jillion more people that have gone after me (and a very modestly increasing contingent of people of color, i hope?) and i’ve lost track of how many times the alphabet’s been cycled through (my squad was the original g squad, fyi).

yet i continue recommending, with confidence, the race to those who are eligible and (holistically) healthy enough to go — not because it’ll be the best time of your life, but because it’ll make your life better.

10 things i’m thankful for at the moment

    • the $20 i found on the sidewalk after i went on a run last week, which went a long way.
    • the box of godiva chocolates i received as a farewell gift from a couple of my now former students.
    • the new job that will give me a couple “free” weeks before starting law school.
    • the wide array of art i can access via museums, and dual-admission to the met & the cloisters, pay-what-you-want fridays, and pretty soon, student discounts that will make them even more accessible to me.
    • tabernacle time in dumbo & taco trucks in les/abc that gave me a chance to dine with 83% of the brick house.
    • the ability to speak spanish that allowed me to explain to the taco truck proprietors’ friend that i’m from new york (“yo nacÍ en nueva york, por eso soy nueva yorquina”), and to oblige three visitors from medellÍn, colombia a photo. consensus: “habla muy bien.”
    • the health insurance i now have thanks to the affordable care act, a.k.a. obamacare. say whatchu want, but who has two thumbs and had her first physical in almost 5 years? this woman. thanks to the lab results, i learned, among other things that i won’t disclose here, that i need a mmr booster. and thanks to obamacare, i can get that taken care of straightaway.
    • the dvr that lets me watch call the midwife and suits that i can’t watch in real time because my parents watch hgtv and korean news & dramas (almost) all day, everyday.
    • the netflix that lets me delve into/catch up on the west wing and breaking bad.
    • the epic worship song (shown below) that sums up my past and upcoming seasons.